Stop Being Scared of Being Disliked by Losers

I used to bend myself in ways that hurt just to be liked by people who didn’t even like themselves. I made myself smaller so I wouldn’t make anyone else uncomfortable. I softened my voice, laughed when it wasn’t funny, said “it’s fine” when it wasn’t, all so no one would call me “too much.”

But I was never too much. They were too little.

Too little to understand me, to face their own reflection without needing someone else to feel small first.

For so long, I let their opinions define my worth. If someone didn’t like me, I thought it meant something was wrong with me. I’d replay everything I said, everything I did, trying to find the version of me they’d finally accept. But you can’t win over people who are committed to misunderstanding you.

What I know now is this: people who feel small will always try to shrink others down to their size. They’ll disguise it as humor, as honesty, as “just being real.” But what it really is – is projection. They see something in you they’ve buried in themselves, and instead of facing it, they mock it.

And for a while, I let them.

I let their insecurity decide how much space I could take up. I kept myself easy to digest. But that version of me was starving. Now, I don’t want to be liked by everyone. I don’t want to be understood by people who’ve never tried to understand themselves. I don’t want to quiet the parts of me that are still learning how to take up space just so someone else can feel a little taller.

So post the video. Start the blog. Take the risk.

Do the things that makes you feel alive, even if people roll their eyes. Because the truth is, the ones who’ll talk about you are always going to talk. And the ones who get it – the ones who see you – will just nod and think,

“She finally did it.”

You don’t need everyone to like you. You just need to like the person you’re becoming. Because being disliked by the wrong people will always feel better than abandoning yourself to please them.